I often hear women say that when a man is courting you he's a different person: sensitive, attentive, loving, generous, romantic(this is subjective though), he's going to scream and throw tantrums just to get your attention, but, once he does, he becomes bored, cold and indifferent. I think most times he just doesn't know what to do with the attention because it's more than he bargained for. It becomes real and no longer seen through rose coloured glasses so he just freezes or as is classic he moves onto the next challenge. That way the thrill of the chase continues. Operative word "Thrill".
The feeling this attitude leaves with the one who was being courted is abandonment. Sometimes rejection and disappointment.
We all remember some few months ago before the elections how the people were been wooed for their votes, I thought some of the then candidates were exceptionally good at courtship and some were clueless and simply annoying. Although in retrospect I realise it wasn't them but their campaign teams doing their work.
The Lagos state race was particularly intriguing to me because at a point I thought Mr Akinwunmi Ambode was more of a model than a governorship candidate. but he was sensitive: each area of Lagos had an appropriate picture, for instance close to a church you'll see a picture captioned "let's pray", close to where young people frequent you'll see him in a suit looking at his wristwatch with the caption " no time " . He was really hands on and in our faces and maybe that's the problem, he got the votes but all of a sudden the now governor is conspicuously absent. Since last Monday there have been trailers parked on the ever busy Ikorodu road yet no official word, this coming close on the heels of the recent horrible avoidable accident at Ojuelegba that claimed lives is not looking sensitive, attentive or loving at all. If feels like all the Lagos state suitors have moved on to other things and abandoned her to her fate.
