THE SEX GODDESS AND THE SAINT

I hadn't heard from a friend of mine for quite some time although I had her on my bbm, what's the point of having numerous contacts that you never speak with anyway?, so, I chatted and asked how she was doing and her response was " you forgot about me abi? " I hadn't, (by the way it takes two to tango if I had not reached out to her, shouldn't she have done it?) I apologized for being such a bad friend and we got talking and then she dropped it " I'm very surprised you pinged me first it's very unlike you". Now, that seems like nothing but it got me thinking: what is like me? I went to an oral interview once some time ago, the interviewer said to me that she was disappointed at some of my answers because she had not been picturing me that way(she had already made up her mind about who I was and some things I actually liked did not go well with her picture). If truly as we keep singing ;variety is the spice of life, why are people so against it? I listened to a very interesting lady speak once and she had said that versatility was overrated .Isn't it sad really about life, these tiny boxes that people put others into. Everything you do that does not fit into the box is resisted and you keep getting "that's not you". It always baffles me when others claim to know you more than you know yourself and would go to great lengths to argue for hours just to convince you you are who they think you are.In the words of Stacee Jaxx in the movie Rock of ages " they don't know me,I know me because I live inside here". Gru the villain in the cartoon Despicable me bought into the idea that there's nothing good about himself despite taking in three orphan children( that wasn't him of course) and caring for them -a very unvillainous act. Back to my question why these tiny boxes?  do they help people to profile you easier? placing you in tiny comfortable compartments in their minds, no thoughts required. So let's explore some of these profilings: If I am an Akwaibomite that automatically makes me a sex goddess and a master chef right? If I am a short slim girl, that automatically makes me an angry vindictive bitter person right? If I go to church and sing in the choir that makes me a good girl because i do not engage in any of the vices of bad club girls. If I am a Yoruba girl, then I must be the definition of dirt as we use the same utensils in the kitchen as well as in the toilet. If I am an Igbo girl, i cannot be trusted because I love money too much... Nice little holes that do not require thoughts as I said. So, what happens if I am a Yoruba girl that cannot stand the sight of dirt?I must b e strange "haba,that's so  unlike them,she's pretending"How about if I am an Akwaibomite that also sings in the choir? Total confusion. I mean how do you reconcile the sex goddess free spirited vixen image with that of the saintly church girl? Too much drama that doesn't fit into the box when it's easy to just pick one part and leave the rest.