ENTERTAINMENT AND SCANDALS Tiwa Savage and Teebilz fiasco

Unlike the Carters case where Beyonce is Still putting up some defence; not airing your dirty laundry in public is a defence because once you bring down that wall the wolves will pounce like sharks incensed by the smell of blood, Tunji Balogun aka Teebilz did not pull punches while pummelling his wife Tiwa Savage in public. He just let it go. As I read his Instagram post I was appalled. I kept checking his Instagram handle to be sure it was really him. I wasn't appalled so much by the words but by the mere act itself. The man came to the public to say he was being cuckolded by his wife and bewitched( in a society where witchcraft and its attendant implications are a taboo).This is Africa after all where the man is boss, alpha male, in control and every other pretentious label we can attach to them just so long as we aid them not to show weakness and sensitivity. And Nigeria especially where we can 'pretend for federation', where we never talk about issues, rather sweep them under the carpet and smile while silently dying inside. Where it is acceptable for a man to cheat as often as he desires but a deadly sin for the woman to even think it: A woman can be stoned to death for infidelity but her accomplice is never mentioned. You then wonder if the woman was cheating by herself. Nigeria where a woman would be living in terror of her beast of a husband yet family members will tell her to bear and stay married probably until he kills her or drives her to the nut house. Vice versa because some women can be a terror to their men too. Maybe it's not just a Nigerian thing after all:"It's man's world" we keep hearing. This man Teebilz(T billion because he supposedly lives very large) came out with all these dirty linen and wanted to commit suicide to cap it all. As expected, the sharks tore into him and his marriage without pity. No one even seemed to care about his desire to end his life.One comment caught me: the person claimed that when all was well and Teebilz and Tiwa wanted to wed, they went to Dubai because they did not want commoners to eat their jollof rice. It was funny but also made me sad. Sad in the sense that we have become inured to people's pain and suffering. What drove a man to say his manhood had been taken from him? To rehash his past and the struggles he's had in front of the world? Maybe it was a desperate call for help but no one paid attention. As I watched Tiwa's interview on the Pulse TV; I admired her courage to speak out,it must not have been an easy choice, she has a career on the line.On the other hand,she tied a scarf, was almost make-up less.I smiled inwardly: seemed her PR team wanted her to play the victim by looking pitiful; but then it wasn't necessary because by his own hands Teebilz had made himself the aggressor. Has this whole fiasco been for album sales?- Tiwa has a new video "If I start to talk" off her R.E.D album which was released December 2015- The prize for this PR would in my humble opinion have been too steep but then in retrospect, it has helped Tiwa's music as could be attested to by one of the Music channels I watched yesterday who had a "Tiwa Savage takeover".